Denial Versus Unacceptance: Choose One.
The terms DENIAL and UNACCEPTANCE are occasionally used interchangeably, but each word carries a completely different colloquial meaning, and each word carries a different emotional charge. If you are in denial , you are being blind to the obvious, and perhaps hiding from it. You are victimizing and infantilizing yourself, to shield your psyche against pain or to keep from confronting a problem. If you are unaccepting, you have chosen not to take what is being offered. You are being proactive -- perhaps to the point of violence or intolerance -- but you are being courageous and not cowardly. In terms of the two different different polarities, the person in a state of denial is not acknowledging or acting on a problem, while the person in a state of unacceptance sees the fault, wishes to change it, and it being quite courageous. Followers and fans of The Braintenance Blog , this is a difference worth contemplating. You might even start to change your use of the terms and begin to pref...